As we come to end of the “love month” ask yourself this question; the question Tyler Perry asked, “Why Did I Get Married?” According to love-sessions.com, here are the reasons why many men and women get married:
- The man’s wish to continue the motherly love received in childhood
- Desire to have a lifetime companion
- The love the man and woman has for each other
- The woman having become pregnant
- To have a woman/man who has a similar career for easier adaptability
- Wish to escape from parents
It’s interesting the to read reasons we see above and find out how much they differ from God’s standard. In 1 Corinthians 7:4 the Apostle Paul says this to the Church at Corinth:
Marriage is not a place to “stand up for your rights.” Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out.
If you made the decision to marry for any reason other than to satisfy and serve your spouse then please rethink that decision. The success of your marriage is determined by how you view the needs of your spouse and meet those needs. As Rick Warren says in his book The Purpose Driven Life, “it’s not about you!”
Check out the next three commandments to keep the flames burning and focus on satisfying your spouse:
Commandment 6: Thou shalt write love letters – Song of Solomon 1:10-15
- This passage reveals a spiritual spouse who identifies specific qualities he appreciates about his beloved, then expresses his appreciation in a love letter. He didn’t text it, tweet it, or Facebook it, he wrote it down!
- Here are four critical elements that must be present in your love letter
i. Identify – Declare what it is you appreciate. Name it.
ii. Specify – Be as specific as you can. Don’t make generalizations about the things you love about your spouse.
iii. Quantify – Express how they have made a measurable difference in your life.
iv. Magnify – Encourage your spouse liberally in public, before their peers.
Commandment 7: Thou shalt be spontaneous. And here’s why:
- Your spouse is counting on you to do something different, something unplanned, unstructured, and spur-of the-moment.
- Spontaneity brings surprise, fun, creativity, and freshness to a marriage.
- Spontaneous moments and times don’t have to be huge events… small ones have the same effect on your marriage. Have fun together!
Commandment 8: Thou shalt seek to satisfy your spouse. 1 Corinthians 7:2-5
- The Bible says that marriage partners should offer their bodies to each other in marriage and should not deny each other except for a short season for fasting.
- To rekindle the flame in your marriage you must seek to satisfy your spouse in bed and out.
All in all, remember that it’s not about you! Base your marriage on serving your spouse in love and I guarantee the flame will continue to burn high!